Poached Eggs and Chocolate, Why Not! (by Debby Thrailkill)

Tis the season to enjoy, whatever that means to you. For me, I hope to slow my roll, and have time to spend with my family and friends.

In our family we have traditions that make Christmas time a true delight. We trudge through Christmas tree lots together in search of the perfect tree, or the Charlie Brown version. We caravan through neighborhoods and take in the Christmas light displays, so fun and festive. We bake holiday cookies together and make small packages to give as gifts to friends and coworkers. We always have a craft day, and this year we made Christmas trees from yarn and wood.

There is beauty delighting in the time spent with multi generations, finding the spirit of the season together. Whether with friends or family, do what brings you joy and gives you peace as the year winds to a close. This is the time of year where you should be doing something special that fills you with joy.

Gift giving is obviously on our minds as we prepare for holidays. Sometimes I’ll send gifts ahead, to be enjoyed during the season. I sent my Aunt Judy and Uncle Paul an oval See’s Candy Gift Box with their favorite chocolates. They were pleased to have the candy to savor and sent the picture and commented back , Poached Eggs and Chocolates, Why Not!

May I suggest… Turn down the media. Turn loose the fast pace. Turn up at parties and meals when your presence is requested. Turn inward to the Lord in gratitude for your blessed life. Turn out and take in the season with others. Why not have poached eggs and chocolate and enjoy your season in its fullest.

The best of all gifts around any Christmas tree – 

The presence of a happy family all wrapped up in each other.

~ Burton Hills

Breath of Life

Last week we had one of our younger grandchildren staying over. Andie is only 5 but she enjoys watching me work out and likes to be my “assistant”. She changes the weight slots on my gym machine for me and writes it down in my log. At one point she said, “Hey Grandpa, you forgot to breathe.” She’s heard me talk about how important proper breathing is and how you need to breathe out when you exert, and she noticed I wasn’t doing it right. Apparently she takes her “assistant” job very seriously!

The reason Andie Rose is a good workout assistant is because she is the type of person who truly cares about others. Which reminds me of someone else who might well be the most caring and considerate person I have ever met.

His name is Antony, and he runs a business called “Peak Personal Training”. His business is a combination of physical fitness and physical therapy. You might even say it is partly a counseling business because you can’t go in there and not come out feeling better both physically and mentally. Antony’s approach is unique because of his total commitment and concern for his clientele. He greets every woman with a kiss and every man with a hug and means it. He will look you right in the eye, ask you how you are doing, and then actually listen and care about what you say. He will call you to make sure you are coming in and then call you after your visit to see how you are feeling. I have never met anyone so committed to helping others. Antony has a great time at his job; however he will push you during training sessions. I remember him getting on me for not breathing properly and making me do extra lifts until I got them right. So I guess you could say he takes his “assistant job” just as seriously as Andie Rose does.

Having people like Andie and Antony in my life is a real blessing. They are not only reminding me to breathe properly during a tough workout session, they are also reminding me how important it is to step back and take a breath during the tough times of life as well. Let’s face it we all go through tough times, especially during the hectic holiday season. So if at times your life feels really crazy and difficult, just remember what Andie and Antony are trying to teach us…slow down and take time to breathe. And if you really want to enjoy life more, help someone else learn how to slow down and breathe!

Breath in the breath of life all the way down to the bottom of your stomach.

Inhale peace and exhale chaos.

~ Tara Sutphen                                                            

I Believe in Miracles

Thanksgiving is fast approaching. So I would like to tell you about a miracle that happened more than 30 years ago that I am still super thankful for today. But first let me set the scene.

It’s 1990 and I’m still a young man of 35, but I’ve certainly had my shares of ups and downs. I found myself lonely and hungry too many times and at one point I lived in a plywood shack for a year. But I also started having success with my career and more importantly connecting with God and asking for His help to find the right path. I prayed for wisdom and came up an idea. I decided to close down my company that I had started in San Diego in 1980 and move to Orange County for a fresh start. I re-opened my same business (with a few new ideas) at an office park off of Cabot Road in Laguna Hills. Money was tight, but I didn’t consider failure an option.

But I didn’t just focus on work, I knew it was more important to focus on how I could best serve others. I made the tag line for my business, “Honesty, Integrity, Respect”, and made sure I treated my employees, customers, and vendors with respect at all times. I was certain my faith would help me overcome obstacles, but you know what they say, “You have to put feet to your faith”. So I opened the yellow pages one day and found an outreach program not far from my office and decided to volunteer there once a week. It was an eye-opening experience to help out people who were truly hungry and suffering, and the crazy thing was that doing something good for others gave me strength, patience, and a new-found sense of confidence that I was sorely lacking.

One year later, I could see my business was really starting to take off. So I placed an ad in the local newspaper for an office manager. The young woman who applied was charming and full of personality, but more importantly she embraced the idea of serving others with a personal passion that I had never seen before. I hired her the next day. Three years later I started dating her, and two years after that I married her. We have been married now for almost 30 years and she is still putting up with me despite my many flaws and defects, and yet still as crazy about me as I am about her. Now if that isn’t a miracle - then I don’t know what is!

Debby and Joe circa 1996

I believe in love. I believe laughing is the best calorie burner. 

I  believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything is going wrong. 

I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day, and I believe in miracles.

~ Audrey Hepburn

Extra Extraordinary

My wife and I were on vacation recently in Kauai and the weather, the sunshine, the ocean, and the rainbows were the best we have ever experienced. For a lot of reasons, our vacation was extra extraordinary! 

Unfortunately, my wife has been having a health issue for the last 6 weeks and it didn’t go away during the time we were on vacation. I felt so bad for her because she really needed a relaxing vacation after all the hard work she has done for her charity this year. I also felt lost and worthless because there was nothing I could do to help her. Let’s face it, if you are a loving partner, the worst thing in the world is to have to stand by and watch your spouse (or children) suffer.

That’s the thing about being a spouse or a parent. Your focus is on your loved ones, and it can be really difficult when things are not going well, especially when there’s nothing you can do about it. Or is there?

Last night, after cleaning up the garage and taking a shower, I thought about my wife and my family and how much they mean to me. But I’m just your average Joe, and I can’t fix everything that is wrong. And it’s so damn frustrating! But as I was thinking about my limitations, I also thought about a minor health issue going on with me that is freaking me out, on top of my worries about my wife. It was at that moment that a thought popped into my head. I don’t know where it came from, but it gave me goose bumps and made me feel a whole lot better. That simple thought was… “Don’t worry, God is with you”. I know that sounds overly simple, but I think that’s what I like about it. When you break it all down, there’s nothing to worry about if you have faith in an extra extraordinary God!

Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.

1 Peter 5:7

Never Be Lonely

I saw a bumper sticker on a car last week that was pretty funny. It said, “If I give you a straw will you go suck the joy out of someone else’s life.” It reminded me of a time in my life when I had a really nice car… but a really hard life. It also reminded me of how I should live my life.

I was only 17 years old and living on my own in Fallbrook, California. After school I worked at a gas station out in the boonies on the corner of Hwy 76 and 395. I learned a lot about cars working there and since it was 1973 there were a lot of nice cars coming through the station. I saw Camaro’s, Mustangs, Dusters, Super Bee’s, and this one really cool Plymouth Road Runner that had a “For Sale” sign on it. I talked to the young Marine that owned it and he explained that he was being shipped overseas and needed to sell it fast. I made him an offer and later that day I was the proud owner of a metallic gold Road Runner with a 4-speed on the floor, chrome Cragar rims, and big Micky Thompson Indy tires. It looked like a race car, but rode like junker. But hey… I figured it might be a great girl magnet.

Truth is, my life was really hard at that time, living on my own, with no parents around. I went hungry a lot, and I was lonely all the time, but that car had one feature that made it stand out. It had a big red bumper sticker that said, “God is Love”. I thought about taking that bumper sticker off (because the kids at school would think I wasn’t cool), but every time I looked at it, it made me feel better and little less lonely, and that my life wasn’t really all that bad. I left that bumper sticker on until I finally sold that car, and as it drove away, I knew I would never be lonely again!

The best way to find love is to find God.

~ Anonymous

Things Are Looking Up

Twice a week I help my wife with babysitting our 2-year-old granddaughter. This past week I took her to a park area with a playground a couple of times and it was really fun for her…and surprisingly fun for me too. Seeing her eyes light up when she spots things she hasn’t seen before or hearing her laugh when she watches a little lizard run by, makes me laugh too.

However, I noticed something when she dropped her Mickey Mouse Doll and couldn’t find it. I didn’t know where it went, but she pointed it out to me underneath the slide because her viewpoint is so much closer to the ground than mine. So I looked where her finger was pointing, and then had to crawl on my stomach to reach the toy. While I’m down there, I realize that this is basically her current view of the world. I mean, when you’re only 28” tall, everything you see is mostly at ground level. That’s probably why we spent a lot of time looking at plants and flowers, picking up sticks, using the sticks to draw in the dirt, checking out the rocks, and laughing at the bugs and butterflies.

And that got me thinking… When we are young, we tend to focus on things down low and get excited by Mother Nature, and that’s a very a cool introduction to the world. But when we get older and have to face the all the difficult issues that come with adult life, we need to start looking up and get excited about Father God!

I thank God for this most amazing day, 

for the leaping greenly spirits of trees and a true-blue dream of sky. 

And for everything which is natural… which is infinite… which is He.

~ E. E. Cummings

It's Who You Know

I’ve been on vacation in Kauai for a couple of weeks, so I haven’t put out a Monday Message lately. But actually, being on vacation in such a uniquely beautiful place has given me a lot of ideas for future Monday Messages. 

For example… I love to golf at the Makai Course in Princeville, Kauai. It’s probably one of the top 10 most beautiful golf courses on earth. So I’ve played quite a few rounds while also getting to know a lot of the people that work there. Yesterday, I was paired up with a young couple that had never been to the Makai Course before. As we waited around for the starter to send us off, three different Makai employees walked by us and everyone of them said, “Aloha, Joe, how you doing?” And when the starter, Hideki, said we were good to go, he said, “Joe, will you please lead this young couple out to the 10^th tee box for me?” (The front nine was closed for construction).

On the way to the 10^th Tee box, an employee in a golf cart stopped and offered us some fresh pineapple. I took a few minutes to talk to her and thank her for the good treats. When we finally got to the 10^th tee and got ready to play, a maintenance worker also drove by us and said “Hi Joe” to me. I guess all that friendliness made an impression on the young couple I was with, because the young man said, “Wow! Does every person on this island know you?”

My response was - Well, the thing is, this is their home, this is where they live, work, and play. I’m just a visitor here. So I feel like it’s not important that they get to know me. What is important… is that I take the time to get to know them. Which is what I try to do.

And that got me thinking… You can expend a lot of energy trying to get noticed, or you can simply smile and be nice to people and their energy will often come right back to you!

Makai Golf Course, Princeville, Kauai

What can one person do? One person can prove false the notion that nobody cares.

 ~ Robert Brault