I have a feeling that this ugly Covid19 situation is going to be either really good for personal relationships, or really bad. It’s just a theory I have. If you’re relationship with your spouse is kind of shaky anyway, and now you’re faced with all the trouble caused by the Coronavirus, your relationship could easily fall apart. But if you’re relationship is really strong to begin with, chances are problems are only going to bring the two of you together as you tackle your troubles as a team. That theory got me thinking about my own marriage.
It’s late Sunday evening and I’m struggling to I get this story ready for Monday morning. However, tomorrow is my wife’s birthday and I am totally stressed out! First, you have to understand that I absolutely adore my wife, so I always want to show her my love on her birthday by taking her shopping and letting her pick out really nice gifts. She always fights me on it, but over the years, I’ve managed to talk her into things like a diamond necklace, earrings, and even a vacation to Hawaii.
But that was back when times were good and there was no world-wide pandemic going on. So, I’m stressed now because I can’t go shopping like normal and I can’t even take her on a nice vacation. Plus, she keeps insisting that I don’t spend money on her this year because money is tighter than ever. But that’s also one of the reasons I love her so much. She never thinks about herself because she is always too busy doing nice things for other people. So how do I demonstrate my love to someone so deserving when I can’t take her shopping like normal?
Then it hit me - relationships are all about communication! In fact, I believe that communication is the single most important factor for creating a successful relationship. So maybe I can’t celebrate her birthday as I normally do, but I can definitely communicate my love to her… in writing! I know it might not be as fun as a vacation, but it will certainly last longer and possibly mean more. Truth is I’ve written her lots of love letters, but this year with how difficult everything has been, she deserves my absolute best effort. So, I poured my heart out to her using my very best prose and I’m hoping it will brighten her day tomorrow. And I thought, “What if there’s another guy out there struggling with communication?” If that’s you, take a look at the “Love Letter Template” attached. Maybe it will give you some ideas… that will lead you to relationship success!
My Dearest _______ (Fill in your cutest pet name for her) ___________,
Thinking about you reminds me that I have someone in my life that I love very much who actually loves me back. Which is quite the miracle! Our love is very ___ (special, unique, tempestuous) ___ , for you express your love very clearly to me every single day. And I am always trying to show you my love as well through my daily _____ (words, deeds, mistakes) _______.
We’ve been together now, hand in hand, truly in love, truly and fully committed to each other, for ___ (20 years, 20 months, 20 minutes) ____. There have been far more good times than bad, far more happy moments than problems. And yet even during the toughest times, I have always known your heart and you have always known mine, and our love has grown stronger with each passing _____ (year, day, minute) _____. For that I feel very blessed!
Is it crazy that my eyes still light up and my heart still skips a beat, every time you ____ (enter the room, leave the room) ____? Is it crazy that I can’t be away from you for even a few hours without missing you and wishing you were by my side? Is it crazy that I am willing to confide my deepest thoughts and silliest fears to you, despite always wanting to impress you with my ____ (strength, courage, hot dog eating ability) ____? Is it crazy that I am willing to share my sensitive side with you, and yet know fully and without a doubt that I would give my life without hesitation for you in a heartbeat? It’s not crazy, it’s called true love!
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I love it when we go for bike rides and talk
about ___ (our love, our in-laws, nothing) ___.
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I love it when we spend time together with
___ (our children, neighbors,
the police) ___.
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I love it when we ____ (hold each other, kiss each other, smack
each other) ____.
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I love it when I go to sleep with my __ (arms, legs, lips) ___wrapped so
tightly around you.
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I love our love, for it is like no other.
As your ___ (husband, lover, boyfriend, best friend, best friend’s husband) ___, I promise to try hard to be everything you want and need me to be. I will try to remember that you have your own personal struggles, your own pains and worries, and make sure you get my best attitude and my best love every single day. And I want you to know that this will not be a hard promise to keep because I enjoy it very much. But then again, isn’t that what true love is truly all about.
Thank you for your love and for all the sacrifices you continuously make for me!
Your __ (Fill in the name you wish she would call you) ___
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